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when she was 7, a boy pushed her on the playground
she fell headfirst into the dirt and came up with a mouthful of gravel and lines of blood chasing each other down her legs
when she told her teacher what happened, she laughed and said ‘boys will be boys honey don’t let it bother you
he probably just thinks you’re cute’
but the thing is,
when you tell a little girl who has rocks in her teeth and scabs on her knees that hurt and attention are the same
you teach her that boys show their affection through aggression
and she grows into a young woman who constantly mistakes the two
because no one ever taught her the difference
‘boys will be boys’
turns into
‘that’s how he shows his love’
and bruises start to feel like the imprint of lips
she goes to school with a busted mouth in high school and says she was hit with a basketball instead of his fist
the one adult she tells scolds her
‘you know he loses his temper easily
why the hell did you have to provoke him?’
so she shrinks
folds into herself, flinches every time a man raises his voice
by the time she’s 16 she’s learned her job well
be quiet, be soft, be easy
don’t give him a reason
but for all her efforts, he still finds one
‘boys will be boys’ rings in her head
‘boys will be boys
he doesn’t mean it
he can’t help it’
she’s 7 years old on the playground again
with a mouth full of rocks and blood that tastes like copper love
because boys will be boys baby don’t you know
that’s just how he shows he cares
she’s 18 now and they’re drunk
in the split second it takes for her words to enter his ears they’re ruined
like a glass heirloom being dropped between the hands of generations
she meant them to open his arms but they curl his fists and suddenly his hands are on her and her head hits the wall and all of the goddamn words in the world couldn’t save them in this moment
she touches the bruise the next day
boys will be boys
aggression, affection, violence, love
how does she separate them when she learned so early that they’re inextricably bound, tangled in a constant tug-of-war
she draws tally marks on her walls ratios of kisses to bruises
one entire side of her bedroom turns purple, one entire side of her body
boys will be boys will be boys will be boys
when she’s 20, a boy touches her hips and she jumps
he asks her who the hell taught her to be scared like that and she wants to laugh
doesn’t he know that boys will be boys?
it took her 13 years to unlearn that lesson from the playground
so I guess what I’m trying to say is
i will talk until my voice is hoarse so that my little sister understands that aggression and affection are two entirely separate things
baby they exist in difference universes
my niece can’t even speak yet but I think I’ll start with her now
don’t ever accept the excuse that boys will be boys
don’t ever let him put his hands on you like that
if you see hate blazing in his eyes don’t you ever confuse it with love
baby love won’t hurt when it comes
you won’t have to hide it under long sleeves during the summer
and
the only reason he should ever reach out his hand
is to hold yours

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(And Why That Is The Stupidest Thing You Could Ever Say To A Little Girl)

(Source: madgirlf)

bhhammy:

calleo:

"It’s like being presented with a sirloin steak and being told you can’t eat it."

Well.

I presented my two dogs with an actual sirloin steak, then told them no.

Woofles didn’t even approach it when I set it down, as I hadn’t told him it was okay to do so.
Quinn approached it, completely ready to take it from the plate (as her manners are not yet as good as Woofles’ manners), was told no, and immediately backed off.

When Woofles heard the no, he turned away as well because he knew that steak was not for him to eat.

Notice how they didn’t ‘argue’, didn’t take it anyway, didn’t get aggressive, didn’t beg, or didn’t try to somehow persuade me that they should be able to have it.

They were told no, they backed off.

So, essentially, if you use that analogy to excuse rape, you’re saying you have less self control and fewer basic social manners than my two dogs.

That also probably means you should be neutered and kept on a leash.

How in the living fuck does this not have more notes?

dolofang:

elanorpam:

pyreticmiscreant:

sketchyfantrolls:

Sup guys, I’ve been hard at work on prepping for finals and all that shiz.

BUT I came back to post a headcanon (thats probably pretty inaccurate) that I just thought about.

Ok, so what do we know about Alternia’s Sun? It’s one bright motherfucker and overall it’s really uncomfortable for a troll to be outside. It makes sense because after all, they’re nocturnal. But have they always been?

My theory is that Alternia is post global warming and is slowly recovering. Think about how long it took for us to reach our industrial Revolution- about late 18th century to early 19th. It’s pretty clear that they’re well past that point. Well what does that mean? No god damn ozone layer. Polar ice caps melted (if they had them). Less oxygen in the atmosphere. And considering how much they would have been producing- a distinct lack of natural resources.

Our ozone layer’s job is to absorb harmful UV light so that we don’t get baked alive. Because Alternia likely doesn’t have one or it’s very thin, it sucks to be out in the sun unless you’re undead or a jadeblood (and therefore able to possibly be a rainbow drinker).

Highbloods already have the advantage of a long life span which is probably one of the main reasons why they dominate Alternia. However, certain highbloods cough-seadwellers-cough would probably be the best equipped to adapt to something like the polar ice caps melting. I think this is why there’s a pretty big gap between the power seadwellers have over all other land dwellers. Land masses got separated and smaller, land dwellers had to sail over water so they had to face some sort of taxation or the constant threat of being attacked from below.

One major reason for why we don’t have giant animals around anymore is because of a lack of oxygen. The bigger something is, the more air it needs. I think one of the reasons why ancestors can grow to be massive is that back in the early days of Alternia, they had a lot of oxygen in their atmosphere. Over time it dwindled and therefore trolls began to shrink in height in order to adapt. Also potentially why adults aren’t very common- as a troll grows up it just gets harder to take in as much oxygen as you need.

In addition to a lack of oxygen, Alternia probably has a major resource deficit. Trolls have certainly had enough time to reach a point where they’ve milked their planet dry of fuel and materials, and then did the only logical thing they could think of. Conquest. They conquer planets to get their resources and have to keep finding new planets to make sure they can keep growing.

I did mention they were recovering and I think that’s true for canon Alternia. Children aren’t really going to set up factories and use up fuel they don’t have or need for that matter, and as soon as they’re old enough to get an industrious mindset they get shipped off the planet to serve in the fleet. The harsh environment also grooms them for scouting and conquering other planets.

Alright, that’s it. I’ll reblog some stuff and then back to my vacation.

that’s such a great headcanon though, like

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the thought that trolls possibly destroyed their home planet, that’s CRAZY. just goes to show how ridiculously powerful & terrifying they are as a species and it rly puts things into perspective

TROLLS LITERALLY HATCH THEIR SPAWN ON A DYING PLANET AND ONLY THE STRONGEST REACH ADULTHOOD tHAT’S SO INTENSE

YES THIS SOMEONE JUST PUT MY DEEPEST BELIEFS INTO WORDS I LOVE YOU ALSO I HATE YOU BECAUSE THIS IS sort of a thing in Golden Age that I thought would blow a lot of minds if I ever got to it oh well ha ha ha

the person above tho

not “trolls”

but “alternians”

you bet your pants beforus didn’t have this problem

Ok but if alternia had this problem and beforus didn’t, that would mean Condesce basically caused it, since the only difference between these two planets is a different ruler

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